What I learned during a year of speaking dangerously
1. For many speakers—and especially for introverts—preparation is key.
Are they craving new information? Insights? What problem do they hope to solve? Give them what they want and need.
3. If you haven’t spoken publicly in a while and feel rusty, watch videos of speakers that have shots taken from the speaker’s vantage point, where you can see what it’s like to face the audience.
(Many TED talks have these shots.) As you watch, pretend you’re the speaker. Get used to what it feels like to have all eyes on you.
4. Similarly, if you can, visit the room where you’ll be speaking.
Practice standing at the podium, looking out into the rows of seats.
5. When you listen to a great speaker or hear someone mention one, get a transcript of the speech.
Study it. How was it constructed? What kind of opening and closing were used? How were examples presented? How did the speaker engage, inspire and educate the audience? Most people are not born great orators. They study, and practice. (This tip comes from Steve Harrison, the co-founder of Reporter Connection.)
6. Keep a video diary or video blog.
I always enjoy my friend Gretchen Rubin’s video postson her Happiness Project blog. And here is Susan Steele of The Confident Introvert doing her first video blog, inspired by my Year of Speaking Dangerously project!
7. Know your strengths and weaknesses as a speaker, and accentuate the positive.
If you have a great sense of humor, use it. If you’re not a natural cut-up, don’t try to be. Instead, focus on what you do best. Do you have a great story to tell? An interesting idea your audience hasn’t considered? Information they need to hear? Frame your speech around your message —and around who you are as a person. Thoughtful and thought-provoking is every bit as powerful as dynamic and entertaining.
8. At the same time, public speaking is a performance, and that’s a good thing, even if you’re not a natural actor.
Have you ever wondered why people enjoy costume parties? It’s because they feel liberated when interacting from behind a mask, from within a role. Dressing up as Cinderella or Don Draper removes inhibitions as effectively as a glass of wine. Think of your onstage persona the same way.
9. Smile at your audience as they enter the room, and smile at them when you begin speaking.
This will make you feel relaxed, confident, and connected.
10. Here is a funny tip from a reader of the Happiness Project. It’s probably not the best advice, but it will make you laugh:
“My eighth grade teacher told us all to pretend the people [in the audience] are heads of cabbages. I never quite got that one as making much sense, but to this day (40 years later) I still say that line to myself before I speak. And I laugh.”